Grace Like Scarlett Paperback – May 1, 2018

I work at a faith-based pregnancy medical clinic and help women with reproductive loss. I use this book as our guide to walking alongside women after miscarriage. To Adriel, thank you for writing this courageous, beautifully written book. It is true discipleship, not a bandage.Adriel is raw and honest with her feelings, helping readers grasp the depth of grief that comes with a miscarriage. Every person’s grieving journey is unique, but by sharing her story and giving encouragement to readers, those hurting can find their grieving language and know they are not alone.She includes an appendix for hurting husbands, which is thoughtful and necessary. Studies show communities often forget the men while caring for the grieving mother. I often recommend the book to family members who have shared their gratitude as they seek to understand how best to support the grieving parent(s).As a Christian and one who has suffered miscarriage myself, I find Adriel’s spiritual guidance strong and true. She continuously asks the reader, with care and grace, to keep seeking Jesus and the Biblical truths of grief and hope. While using as a guide with others, the book helps me identify other areas of concentration for the grieving to give additional support. The book is an excellent guide to stand alongside the Bible to offer an everlasting hope and connection with our children in heaven.

Have you ever read something and wondered how your thoughts ended up in someone else’s book? That’s what happened several times for me while reading Adriel Booker’s “Grace Like Scarlett.” I watched a video where she explained her three reasons for writing this book. The first reason was to let women who have miscarried know that their grief is valid. The second reason was to explain the theology of suffering. And the third reason was to dispel the myth that a crisis of faith has to be a bad thing. Did she accomplish those goals? Most definitely; yes!When reading the chapters on grief, I found myself wishing that I had had this book to read right after my miscarriage. Adriel reminds us that it’s normal to feel so many conflicting emotions, that grief isn’t linear, and that although there isn’t a “right “way to grieve, there is a way to “grieve well.” She describes all of the “junk” that grief exposes within our hearts… guilt and shame, even jealousy and comparison. Reading the book feels like a friend is guiding you through the tough issues like forgiveness and being forgiven.Her theology of suffering explains that God DOES give us more than we can handle. However, he has promised he will be with us through it all. She talks about the incarnation of Jesus that we see in the Bible and guides us in how we can be the community that others need by entering into the pain of those around us.When discussing a potential crisis of faith, Adriel honestly explains the relationship between faith and doubt, who God is, the purpose of grace, and where God is when we’re suffering. She reminds us that even the heroes from the Bible questioned God, and doubt can make our faith stronger. Ultimately, our suffering wasn’t his plan, but he will use it to redeem our lives… if we’ll let him.My miscarriage was two years ago. I didn’t know if this book would help me, but I bought it with a hopeful heart. Whether your miscarriage was yesterday or 50 years ago, I firmly believe you will be blessed by this book. I know I was. It felt like the friend that I wish had walked with me through my experience. If you’ve never experienced miscarriage, I believe that this book can help you through other types of grief as well. If you’re looking to walk with a friend after her miscarriage, the materials in the appendix will help you to bless her as well.

If only I'd had this book a decade ago when I lost my first baby, or even the second time, just a few months ago, when I lost a second baby. Miscarriage is beyond hard, and it can be crippling. It's a unique sense of loss that those who haven't experienced just can't quite grasp. My friends would forget quickly that I was grieving a loss because that loss was intangible to everyone in the outside world. Grace Like Scarlett addresses the spectrum of complicated emotions that follow the loss of a pregnancy, and Adriel does it with such grace and beauty that you feel as though you're curled up on the couch with a warm cup of tea and a friend who is willing to go deep with you -- without judgement. Adriel becomes that friend in this book, and she's a friend you'll grow to love. She validates your grief and myriad emotions while also filling you with Scripture and promises that remind you that you won't always be in this dark place. God is too good for that.If you've lost a baby and you're struggling, read this book. If you have a friend who has lost a baby, buy her this book and get one for yourself. Learn, as Adriel did, how to find comfort in the sorrow and joy in the grace.

This book was everything I needed and more. This book really helped me validate my feelings and process my emotions. ❤️

From a mama who has lost two subsequent babies, this book is a must read. When we lost our third baby, Samuel, I wasn’t sure I would survive. I was in such a dark place. Adriel’s words pointed me to Jesus Who pulled me out of where I was. We CAN grieve with hope, and this book has a way of reminding us of that. When I miscarried again almost a year later, I re-read this and still found it very helpful. I have bought over 25 copies of this book. Anytime I hear of a friend experiencing miscarriage or infant loss, I immediately order this and send it to them. There’s not much that we can do for those hurting in this way, but I pray this book can help them as much as it did me. If you have experienced loss like this, you need to buy this book... and if you’re looking for something to buy for a friend going through such a hard loss- look no further. Highly, highly, HIGHLY recommend.